It’s happened. We broke up. Sure, we’ve had some spats before but not like this. This time he’s really gone. I keep crying, waiting, hoping that he’ll walk through the door and it will all have been a dream. Some of my friends have experienced breakups and they’re doing just fine. Why am I so different? Why can’t I just move on like they did? Why am I so desperate to get my guy back? Does this in any way describe your situation? If so, then perhaps your guy is the only one for you. You can’t move on because he’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Guess what? There's good news! It doesn't have to be the end.
If you’ve had a deep, loving relationship with your guy, you can bet that he’s feeling the same way you are right about now. Once two people are joined by love its very hard to endure separation. So, you may be asking what do I need to do to repair my relationship and maybe even make it better than it ever was before? Don't give up hope just yet. You need to focus on a process for repair.
The first thing you need to do is realize that the breakup is real. It happened and you can’t go back to the way it was before. You’ve got to make some changes right now to begin building a foundation for your new and better relationship with him. Start by getting out of the house. Get active. Go out and spend some time with your friends and family. Let him and your friends see that you are strong and have self-confidence.
Believe me, they’ll all be taking note, including him. Start living life again. You’ll do just fine. A couple of things are going to happen during this process. First, is that you are going to gain confidence in yourself. You will begin to see that you really can make it on your own. Second, understand that he will be watching you. You’re not trying to make him jealous here. You’re just letting him see what he is missing.
The time will come, after you’ve been apart for a while, to go out for a casual lunch just to catch up. You will have grown during your time apart and it's going to show. He'll see a different girl. Remember, he’s been missing you just like you’ve been missing him. Be open and approachable, yet not eager. He'll always want what he can't have...